If it's the former I'm more inclined to think he's being self-centered in your relationship. Good luck with her, and good life to you. The relationship never went anywhere but was always happy to help and he was very grateful. It's all about timing, and you're in two different places. I suggest you develop a busy calender so you'll be occupied because you'll get dizzy thinking in circles. I know a Doctor who drug his wife and 2 children across the US to begin his residency. You won't know this until you do it and that is really important information to get before a marriage contract. And Mormons were basically encouraged to marry other mormons. Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters. This is the rule rather than the exception.
Several of the apostles have grown up in part member homes. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready. BYU was once the perfect place to find a great young woman and get married. Honestly, the bulk of what I did was pretty routine and uninteresting. I almost left the marriage,3xs. You may look on here and see all of us, but a lot of us got out much much older. Then you might want to talk about all the things her church requires. It's in the Mormon DNA.
I do hope I'm able to make the necessary sacrifices to make my marriage work. Odds are majorly against this dude. It's just not worth it to constantly be stressing over this and feeling dissatisfied with the way things are after we've been dating for this long. All these are reasons to have some serious discussions. I told him that this wasn't working for me. The importance of modesty. An interfaith marriage can be done well or disastrously, or even only being made up as you go. I think people get carried away with the whole social status of a Doctor which is really unnecessary.
I am married to an amazing man and physician who cried when he told our 6 year old that he had to cancel on her classroom visit for the second time because he got called into work on his day off, again. If you like your regular fix of alcohol or nicotine, then dating a Mormon probably isn't a good idea. At the end of the day, nothing I say or do can help him see this. Did everything in my power to support him, whether it be financial, emotional, etc.